If I could just lose 50 pounds everything would be better. If my boobs just shrunk more I could wear that outfit. If I lose weight my skin will clear up and my hair texture will change to look like hers. If I lose weight I will find love. If I just get to a size 8 then he will want me. If my stomach was flat like yours I would be happy…
I mean I could list so much more of the things I have said myself and have heard other people say and its all bullshit. There is a complete misconception of the weight loss journey and what it actually looks like. First and foremost weight loss looks different on every single person. No ones journey is the same but yet we as women will spend our days comparing and contrasting our experiences, success and failures to someone else’s. BUT WHY?
“Comparisons and Competitions comes when you lose focus and stop challenging yourself”
Secondly in most cases and this is where my gut punch reality check came in; weight loss is more than just the number on the scale. DUH! Hard pill to swallow and usually I ignored that simple fact. I told myself like no I just want to be under 200 pounds then I will be happy. I just want to be able to do 10 push ups and that will satisfy me. I want the rolls on my back gone then I would be more confident in my clothes. LIES!!!
I literally was lying to myself to avoid my real shit. My real issues and weight gain was more than just pounds of fat. My weight was pounds upon pounds and layers upon layers of stress, brokenness, defeat, negativity, people triggers, lack of self-worth. I MEAN COME ON! Who wants to really admit something like that. Who really wants to undress the layers of weight we have on our bodies. The physical is easy but the mental, that is a whole other ball game. I have spent the last 5 months tackling my mental and transforming my mindset to a place where I want to be and I place I want to show up daily. So now people are saying more than ever before when I have lost weight you look different, you look happy, you are glowing…Welp that is because I am and it is not because a number of the scale. Now when people ask me for advice I say are you mentally prepared? Because with any weight loss journey you have to mentally prepare for your transformation dare I say even more than the physical aspect. It is never easy but for me it has been so worth it.